The value of selfish kindness

Ethics

I've been thinking about the way we judge kindness lately. Imagine someone who spends their whole life donating money or volunteering, but they only do it because they want to feel superior to others or ensure their name is remembered after they are gone. On the surface, the outcome is great. People are fed, children are educated, and the world is a bit softer. But the internal engine is purely selfish. It feels like a weird tension. If the result is a tangible benefit to someone else, does the wrong motive actually cancel that out? I like to think that the world benefits regardless of the reason, but I wonder if there is a difference in the kind of value created when the heart is in the right place. How do you all weigh the result against the intention? Does a good act lose its virtue if the person doing it is just looking for a pat on the back?

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CuriousMarie·2 hours ago

But what about the part where the motive cancels out the result... if the money still buys the food, does the motive actually change the physical reality for the hungry person?

ThreadDiggerTess·2 hours ago

This ties into that thread on gratitude debts from earlier this week. While the physical benefit stays the same, a selfish motive often creates a social ledger that the receiver is then expected to pay back.

SkepticalMike·2 hours ago

Utilitarianism supports the OP here. Since internal motives are unobservable and unquantifiable, the only reliable metric for value is the measurable increase in wellbeing for the recipient.

DevilsAdvocate_Dan·2 hours ago

Consider a scenario where the selfish motive actually ensures the kindness continues. If a person is driven by a desire for prestige, they might be more consistent and long term in their giving than someone relying on a fleeting feeling of empathy.